The Thing About Rainbows

There is no one way to feel upon realizing you are pregnant again after previously suffering a loss. The range of possible emotions runs the gamut. When I discovered I was pregnant with my rainbow baby, I had absolutely no idea how to feel as I looked down at that positive pregnancy test. I went…

Ok, you're pregnant again and you hopefully have some renewed hope for the birth of a healthy baby.  Or maybe you're like I was, terrified and a little shut down. I was too afraid to accept what I saw on that pregnancy test and start to hope. To start counting the months so I could…

Announcing that you are expecting can be a very personal decision, whether it is a rainbow pregnancy or not.  And, spoiler alert, there is no right or wrong way to do it. Some people choose to wait until they are past certain pregnancy milestones, while others choose to share the news as soon as they…

I want to start by saying, let's get rid of the shoulds in this scenario (and many others). There are far too many shoulds in our lives, especially for mothers. Let's not add this one to the list. Deciding whether to announce your rainbow baby pregnancy is a deeply personal choice. It's a decision wrapped…

Deciding who you want to tell about your rainbow pregnancy is an extremely personal decision. Sharing such joyful yet anxious news takes some consideration. When I found out I was pregnant the second time and went into my state of denial, I wasn't sure what to do about sharing the news. Not knowing how to…

Even if your pregnancy isn't a rainbow pregnancy, this decision is big, and there are so many different elements that play a factor in it. What is your relationship like with your supervisor? How supportive are they? What about your coworkers? Is there a possibility you will be treated differently, or passed over for advancement…

Did you know that October is designated as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month? I didn't know about it until after I experienced my loss. So many people don't. Which is exactly why we need it. And while it is so important to cast light on this sensitive topic, it can be so very difficult…

When I first heard about the Global Wave of Light, I had a lot of mixed feelings. Part of me was sad that I hadn't learned of it sooner, while another part was sure I would not have been ready to participate right away. Whether you are pregnant with your rainbow baby or not, October…

If you've read some of my other posts, you might already know how I feel about “shoulds.” If not, let's start there. There are far too many expectations around pregnancy and motherhood. Try to let as many of them go as you can. I put “should” in the title with the hope this post would…

Announcing a pregnancy might feel like an exciting milestone – “I'm pregnant again, I did it, we can breathe.” Or it might feel like a giant weight you cannot bear – “I am pregnant again but will it last, can I do this again, do I want people to know?” Maybe you are stuck between…

As we head into November and start to see the seasonal focus on gratitude that the Thanksgiving holiday brings, many of us are surrounded by reminders to reflect on what we’re thankful for. So I wanted to take this opportunity to talk a bit about gratitude; how it might be hard to find sometimes, and…

Navigating a rainbow pregnancy brings so many emotional challenges, and one of the most significant decisions you’ll face is choosing a healthcare provider who understands and supports your needs. The right provider can help you feel seen, respected, and cared for, but deciding on that provider can feel overwhelming, especially if you’re already overwhelmed with…

Finding healthcare providers you gel with can be really hard sometimes. And that only gets amplified when you are seeking one for something as sensitive as a rainbow pregnancy. For me, knowing I needed a new healthcare provider came at the beginning of my rainbow journey. I knew I never wanted to return to my…